My interview with Meredith Vieira on living with chronic illness {in the family} made me think back to my family’s time when we lived through my daughter, Nava’s, chronic condition of ulcerative colitis. Until it get managed well with the proper medicines, it was obviously difficult and emotionally painful to watch a loved one (in this case an 11 year old child) writhe in pain, wake up in the middle of the night crying out on blood-streaked sheets and lose a lot of weight.
During the acute stage of her illness, there was no escaping the fact that life revolved around sickness. It was only when it began to finally get under control with steroids and then maintained with colitis medication that I could strive towards regaining some semblance of normalcy in our home. I did not want illness to define Nava nor our family’s life. Yes, it was a component of her and our life but it wasn’t the entirety. I wanted to make life bigger and broader than the colitis.
It became relatively easy to do once the acuteness of the disease went into quiet mode with a fairly small regimen of daily pills, for which Navi became completely responsible. For six years the illness kept a low profile; Nava was fine and healthy. And then all hell broke loose when a major flare-up that couldn’t be controlled set off a medical crisis (which I’ve written much about).
Fast forward – Nava is ‘cured’ of ulcerative colitis as she had her colon removed and has a permanent ostomy. She has her life back, her health back and lives well. She handles her ostomy herself without a peep of complaint.
So how do you live with a chronic condition?
Emotional pain has to be expressed. Tears need to flow. That’s what frees us up to carry on with a wee bit of a lighter load.
I certainly had my share of venting, ‘why Navi’; however my own pity parties were held under my covers at night.
And when Navi didn’t feel up to it, I’d make sure her sisters were doing their fun things.
These are a few things that helped us through our travails of chronic illness. If you’ve gone through any sort of ongoing condition with a loved one (or yourself), I’d love to hear what helped get you through.
I will not be posting for the next two weeks as I will be away on vacation.
Big hugs to you, Harriet. I know how much courage this takes, and admire you for it. Enjoy your vacation. Glad to know Nava is doing well. Love, Vidya
Hi Vidya,
Thanks for your support. We all have to step up to the plate; no other choice.
Harriet what a tower of strength you truly are. My role model
Have a wonderful holiday. 🙂
Elle
xoxo
Hi Elle,
As I wrote to Vidya above – is there really much of a choice?? We must deal with what we have to deal with in as good and healthy a way as possible.
Thanks for your support.