Bring Out the Best in People – Four Ways to Show ‘You Matter’

We as human beings all have a need to be heard, to be validated, and to be understood.  Without necessarily agreeing with someone’s position or sharing the same interests, we can still be there for people in a positive way and help bring out their good.

 

Interest-   Take an interest in the other person.  Show specific interest in his/her ‘thing’.  People come alive when they can share their passions and interests with a sincerely listening and caring person.  Ask questions to hone in what they’re saying.

Praise–   Specific praise goes a long way in making someone feel deeply known and valued.  Not the generic words, nice or good; but rather words that describe the unique person and his/her attributes and strengths.   Reflect back the good qualities you see.  Nothing feeds the soul like sincere, descriptive and specific praise.

Support –   Emotional support is very strengthening.  Expressing verbal or written support is heartwarming.  “I’m here for you” with joy for the good times and with big shoulders for the rough times, stated and acted upon, says it all.

Encourage–  Being a cheerleader by encouraging someone to embark upon something new; to take that next step; to see what they’re good at and highlighting it for them; this is all so very  helpful and empowering.  We all need people to believe in us and oftentimes to positively push us to our potential.  We all can do so much more than we’re already doing, but for so many reasons we stop ourselves short.  Having someone who truly knows our strengths and cares enough to encourage us to ‘go for it’, or to point us in directions we may not have seen on our own, is tremendous.

Knock, knock, are we there for each other??  Is the good shining through??

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