Coming Back To Ourselves

Coming Back To Ourselves

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life.”  Mary Oliver

“Who am I”, you may ask yourself all too many times.  You’ve forgotten yourself in the midst of all the stress, chaos and turmoil of life.

Every time I facilitate a workshop, there’s at least one participant who says either aloud in front of the group or privately at the end of the session that she doesn’t know who she is anymore, that she doesn’t know what she likes and enjoys; that there is such a disconnect.

Whether it’s raising kids or being a caretaker to a spouse or elderly parents, you tend to put yourself on the back burner.  By the time you can move to the front one because some of those responsibilities and obligations have minimized, you begin to realize, “I forgot who the heck I am.”

If you’re not busy nurturing others, you may feel submerged by problems, drowning in the swirling negativity.  This doesn’t exactly lend itself to thinking enjoyment.  It’s more like a downward spiral.  In that mode, your mind may not take you out on that beautiful nature walk or to your drawing pad to sketch the perennial black-eyed susans growing in the front yard.

We somehow seem almost conditioned to remove ourselves from our own lives.  It’s as if we have to subjugate ourselves to our external callings.

Getting back to ourselves, becoming aware and bringing forth our best selves is a gift we can give the world.  We are then out there, each of us being {and doing} our truest and most authentic selves.  It behooves us to unearth ourselves.  For then we will be igniting an inner flame, our inner flame,  that will light a path.  Imagine so many paths being lit with the passion and beauty of us all as we chip away and connect to our core.

So let’s fill our bucket.  For when we keep refilling it we have that much more to give.  We draw from fullness rather than emptiness.  Running on empty only yields more stress, anxiety, resentment, confusion lack of joy.  The ripple effect of negativity starts here.

Let’s reverse that towards a ripple that will send excitement in the air and spiral upward.  It begins with each one of us.

I offer you these questions to consider: 

What matters to you?

What’s important to you?

What excites you?

What do you enjoy?

What do you find meaningful?

What do you want to do more of?

What are your best traits?

What would you like to accomplish?

What are your regrets?

What are you proud of?

What would you like your legacy to be?

What are you drawn to?

What do you love?

What or who has been your most positive influence?

What touches your heart?

What inspires you?


I’d love to read some of your responses here.  I hope you’ll share a bit, maybe one or two answers.

If you’ve gone through a difficult life challenge or loss and are ready to rebuild your life with renewed purpose and joy, I’m here to support you and get you on a path of relief.   Reach out here.


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