How do we attempt to keep a sense of normality where there appears to be none? This is one question that’s been gnawing at me since I saw the powerful off-Broadway play, BOB .
Bob suffers from mental illness and he grew up with severe acting-out behaviors. Needless to say this took a huge toll on his entire family. For “When mental illness comes home, the whole family has special needs.”
The family is played by one woman, the real life sister of Bob, Anne Pasquale. She portrays each member in Bob’s life in a 90-minute highly emotionally charged performance.
There is often tremendous fall-out on the other children, the siblings of the ‘ill’ child; sometimes to the point of creating ‘malfunction’ in the previously ‘typical’ kids. This is the part that hit me hard. Perhaps because I too have an {adult} child with disabilities, although not specifically mental illness. It brought me back to some things I was very attuned to when raising my children, gratefully with the guidance of some wonderful therapists.
How do we create some balance and normalcy when it seems like the household revolves around one person’s issues and needs?
My younger daughter had to ‘shlep’ around to all her sister’s after-school therapy appointments. That hour of therapy became our quality time alone to do fun things and for me to give her that one-to-one attention.
Having said this, it is not at all easy. There is tremendous stress, a sense of being overwhelmed and overworked, a sense of simply trying to get through each day.
But even small changes or shifts in focus and attitude can make a big difference.
Here’s my pitch for the play, BOB: if you live in the New York area, go see this provocative and powerful play. It does an incredible job of raising consciousness and awareness of the human condition known as mental and emotional problems. You will be deeply moved. It’s only running another two weeks, until October 6th. You can get tickets by calling 212-868-4444
Thanks for stopping by. Please share this. There will always be people with problems; our job as a society is how we view it, manage it and treat it. They must be helped, families must be helped and they must be Embraced as members of our world. Seeds of greatness and purpose can be found in all.
Thanks for sharing this post. We’ve got multiple special needs to deal with in our house, and it is difficult to balance everyone’s needs. Luckily things are (finally) settling down some.
Hi Christy,
Yes, it is hard to balance everyone’s needs. Try to find those moments to incorporate some ordinary fun and good times. Be mindful and stay connected to what’s important to you so that good memories can be created as well.
Thanks for commenting here.