So you haven’t done so well lately in dealing with some difficulties. Does that mean you’re doomed to never being able to handle things better? Does that mean, “I just don’t have what it takes.” Sometimes we all feel that way. But we have ‘handling’ muscles, coping muscles, resiliency muscles that with exercise can be strengthened and thereby better able to help us deal with our hardships.
We are born with our physical muscles that can grow to be defined and sculpted by work- outs with weights and exercises. In order to get that though we have to put in the effort and work it takes to develop them.
So it is similar with our unseen, internal character muscles. We must work them so that when we need them to help us navigate and manage our trials and tribulations, we have a strong cushion of support.
It’s so easy to fall into that victim mode. But in reality we have so much more than we realize: strength, ability, potential and yes, resiliency.
Some exercises to develop and strengthen our internal reservoir:
Now go work out. Tell me what you’re going to do differently and Just do it!
Thanks for stopping by. I hope this got you going, at least 1%. Small change is sustainable and it starts a ripple effect.
Hi! I just found my way here from your story in “Letting Go.” A year ago today, actually, I began the extremely difficult (but rewarding!) work of completely changing my understanding and perceptions of myself, and the world. Building that “muscle” certainly does require a constant effort!
Hi Bethany,
Glad you landed here. I thought there were supposed to be bio’s with our name (web site, etc) at the end of our stories in Letting Go so we could be contacted. Well good that you got here on your own.
Congratulations on a year-long work on your Self. That’s the hardest job – working to change ourselves, and as you say, so very rewarding. And it is constant work in keep ourselves in check. What we think about, how we react, it’s all in our control.
I recently heard a great quote – “don’t believe everything you think.”