How do we find our way back into the world after an awful and painful life situation?
After a divorce we wonder if we’ll ever love again. After the death of a loved one, we grief so deeply and wonder if the blackening sadness and excruciating pain will ever go away? Dealing with an illness, we question if we will be able to overcome our health challenge.
We come head-on into lousy circumstances, And we can choose our response. We receive something bad And we can determine what we make of it. We can’t necessarily pick what we get but we can choose how we deal with it.
Responsible – response +able = we are able in our responses. We may have little to no control over certain external happenings but we have control and ‘ableness‘ over our responses to our happenings.
This awareness of our ability to do something with an adversity that’s smacked us in the face can be the difference between succumbing or rising.
As Viktor Frankl (Austrian psychiatrist and Holocaust survivor; founder of logotherapy- therapy of meaning, and author of world renowned book, Man’s Search for Meaning) famously stated, “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”
“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response.…