The official holiday season is upon us. A time to be joyful and happy. But for oh so many it’s not quite that glowing a time. In fact, it’s the opposite. And because the hoopla is so high and dazzled with such excitement, the low tide of those feeling anything but, is expansive, magnified and intensified.
The idea of gathering together in relationships and family connections, digs that hole even deeper into the heart and soul of those sailing alone. And those who are seemingly externally connected may also feel that pit of despair, hopelessness and emptiness to the core, oftentimes unbeknownst to their loved ones. Feelings of loss are hollowing during a time of expected rejoicing.
And so for all those suffering through this “should be” happy season, your pain and loneliness stands atop of the mountain with open arms to a world larger than your sight. It is understood, it is acknowledged, it is felt, even if by only a few.
But here’s the key: it needs to be understood, acknowledged and felt by you, the one who stands alone in pain.
- Befriend your pain; let yourself feel it. It won’t shatter you. Accept that it is a part of you right now and let that be O.K. Sit with it and talk with it like you would to a friend. Be your own friend, comforting and soothing, not dismissive or judgmental. Otherwise, the more you resist it, the bigger it gets.
- Step outside yourself and go do for others.