“ Biography does not equal destiny.” Tony Robbins
What a great line, a great concept. When we believe our past shapes our future, we’re missing the boat of life. Yes, it may explain things and provide understanding but ‘using’ the past as a reason why things can’t be better, or accepting the way things are because of …..as that finger points back in the blame game mode, only continues to keep us entrenched in our victim mode of apparatus.
If this were the case, that our biography creates our life, then why are there so many poor little rich people – people who’ve come out of homes with seemingly everything who end up in rehab – addicted, depressed, suicidal?
And why are there those who’ve had rough childhoods – be it poor, abusive, ill – and they rise above their difficult past and create empowering and successful lives? Oprah, Dave Pelzer, Jim Carrey to name but a few.
There’s obviously something beyond our biography, beyond our conditions that bring us to a better place. And that’s the decisions we make each step of the way. Yes, there are also innate qualities of resilience that we have which certainly help us forge ahead and carry us above and beyond our misfortunes. And we can certainly build and develop those resiliency characteristics. But we must also take an active role in carving out the life we want to have and not resign ourselves to doom and gloom because of that big nail sticking out known as the Past.
We have to meet it, dance with it and then part ways and move on to some new steps.
How do we engage in those new steps?
Rebuild Your Life with joy, meaning and satisfaction. And don’t forget to add in a huge dose of Fun.
Need help taking those steps? Call on me to help you practice your new dance routine. We can make it fun.