Harriet Cabelly, LCSW
Therapist . Speaker . Author
Resolutions = failure Intentions= striving towards All too often we make new year’s resolutions only to see that it’s February (or maybe even earlier) and we’ve already messed up. Discouragement sets in and we’re throwing in the towel since we’ve already failed. Now what? How about another way of looking at this idea of goal-setting […]
‘Tis a season of lights – Christmas lights, Chanukah lights of the menorah. Beautiful lights all around. And yet we’re acutely aware of all the darkness going on around us and the world at large. Sometimes it seems so hard to take pleasure in this supposedly joyful season while we compassionately feel for the tragedies […]
You’re going through a rough time. How do you cope and manage? How do you stay afloat right now? 1. Acknowledge the difficulty to yourself. “This is really hard for me. I am so stressed. How will I keep doing this? 2. Give yourself permission to be human. There need not be guilt or shame […]
We’re all busy Doing. And we’re all getting stressed, anxious, burned-out and sick from all our doings. Kids included! Kids especially! Warning: Too much Doing is harmful for our kids. Side effects include: anxiety, depression, stomach aches, headaches and other physical symptoms, eating disorders, cutting, addictions, suicide. Antidote: Engage in more Being. Play more; dream […]
Just saw the movie, The Theory of Everything, about the life of Stephen Hawking. Talk about resiliency, perseverance, rising above and beyond! He is a supreme example of overcoming adversity! Having lived over 50 years with the {most often} fatal and horrifically degenerative disease, ALS, also known as Lou Gehrig’s disease, he is clearly an […]
We run from pain. It’s the natural way. Fight or flight – we detect danger, we run. But what about emotional pain? We also seem to run from that. After all, who the heck wants to feel anger, sadness, grief and all those other icky feelings. We do whatever it takes to avoid, numb or […]
Rachel, my 3 ½ year old granddaughter loves the music from the show Aladdin, especially the song, A Whole New World. She knows all the words by heart. One of my favorite times lately is tucking her into bed, either at her house when I babysit or at mine when she has a sleep-over, and […]
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” Victor Frankl The space is there between the provocation and our response. We can utilize that space to choose a response rather than an automatic and reflexive reaction. […]
A provocation, something disturbing or annoying, critical/judgmental, toxic, some push- our- buttons type of an act, comment, situation, conversation or argument – you know how any one of these things can throw us off balance and send us reeling. We get insulted, angry, agitated, feel like a failure or an incompetent, feel intimidated…. And the […]
Sitting here with this letter in my hand seems to bring forth all the pain and loss of the past few weeks. Global pain from the horrific and primitive evil of a beheading; shocking pain over the grave depth of psychic pain leading to the suicide of one of our most beloved and gifted entertainers; […]
