Harriet Cabelly, LCSW
Therapist . Speaker . Author
So what’s the silver lining in your recent challenge? For me it was the fact that my severe joint pain hit my left hand, that I was able to walk and that everything about our trip was just so perfect – the weather, accommodations, beauty, logistical arrangements and touring. I developed some weird allergic reactions […]
“I have this tree analogy when I think of people in my life, be it friends, family, acquaintances, employees, co-workers, whomever… They are all placed inside what I call my tree test. It goes like this: LEAF PEOPLE Some people come into your life and they are like leaves on a tree. They are […]
Read my updated and expanded piece to The Grief of Now as published on the amazing and artistic Karen Salmansohn‘s website. Experiencing, speaking and writing from both my personal self and my professional self. …As someone who is also on the professional side of this {grief} work – loss, grief, growth– I recommend you work […]
So 15 minutes sounds like a lot in the whirlwind of your day?! From the minute you wake up you’re on that treadmill trying to keep up; otherwise you’ll fall off – and this and that won’t get accomplished. As it is, you can’t keep up with all that needs to get done. But I […]
Feeling barraged by all this bad news. One horror story after another. Devastating. Penetrating. Consuming. Engulfing. Pick the word – it’s all too much at the same time. Seven kids in one family dying in a house fire; a plane purposefully set into a downward spiral, crashing into jagged mountains, killing everyone onboard; fire […]
Being on a grief and growth journey with you is an honor and privilege. As painful as it is sitting here with you – grief-stricken, numb, a broken egg shell of a person whose insides are pouring out – I, your counselor, hold your pain in all its rawness. We sit together as your grief […]
A mother brings forth a child into this world; a ‘child’ leads a mother into the next world. This is my thought as I lay next to my mother watching her die. My mom passed away peacefully at age 97. A celebration of life but even more profound for me at the moment is […]
When you’re in the throes of awfulness you can’t think about tomorrow. You’re in the powerfully crippling feelings of the moment. And that needs to be attended to. For it’s in the going through them that you will come through them to a new phase. But it takes time, patience and work. Wounds must […]
“Words can sometimes, in moments of grace, attain the quality of deeds.” Elie Wiesel I just finished a wonderful course called Teaching for Transformation by the amazing Maria Sirois. In the last class she asked a question that really ‘knocked the ball out of the park’, as she likes to say. Questions, as we […]
Often when we’re upset or feeling overwhelmed with any sort of negativity, we fall prey to that which may make us feel good at the moment. The pint of ice cream in the freezer (or maybe even quart!), the bottle of booze in the cabinet, the local bar at the corner, the pill bottle in […]
